A military widow asks about her deceased husband

A young, still grieving, military widow asked me recently if she remarries later on, what will happen when she and her husband are reunited after her death? Also she is interested in why she can sometimes feel his presence, then other times nothing?

The Angels explain that there is the love we experience in a body and then there is the Love that we experience in our dead-life. For the majority of us, these are two very different experiences.  In a body, our love is filled with judgment. "Yeah, I love you, but I wish you could have done better." Or "Why were you flirting with ... last night?  I was humiliated!" In life, we are always working with accepting what our mate or friend does and how we perceive their actions. 

In our dead life, love is Love. It is unconditional. Our spirit is permeated with the Love of the Source, of God.  In that place there is no room for "yes, but."  Unconditional Love is about acceptance of what is. This love is unequivocal and permeates every drop of your spirit so that you are filled to the brim with joy and contentment if you are willing.

As for why you sometimes are able to feel your husband's presence and other times not, that can have to do with many things.  When we first pass on, we tend to stay close to home, so you would be apt to feel your husband close to you.  Later on, you will both begin to move on with your lives and reconnect periodically, depending upon your temperament.

If you set your intention to connect with your husband in your dream state, most likely you will. The trick will be to to ask to remember your dreams in the morning and perhaps, to keep a pad of paper by your bed to record your remembrance immediately upon awakening.

If you remarry, you will have the opportunity to expand your love to include as many husbands as you choose. In your dead life, love never lessens your relationship, it only expands.  Love builds upon love.  It gets stronger and purer, i.e. more accepting and nurturing. Forgiveness becomes a fait accompli for you with others if you allow it.

Life is a continuum of energy as opposed to stop and go as it appears to the living. The acceptance found in true Unconditional Love is the glue that moves us into enlightenment and the reunion with the God Source.