Nobody's Dead

Dead 101 ~ Nobody Dies

After "death," it appears the emotional challenges of living remain with us in our spirit form. It is always our choice to change our anger and fear into acceptance and love.

My gift of connecting with the dead, is channeled through the Angels of Light. It is the Angels, sharing their unconditional love and higher wisdom, who allow this knowledge to be passed on to you. I am only their grateful conduit.

Whether you are interested in a free consultation or a joyful reading with your loved one, please email suzy@nobodysdead.com

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A military widow asks about her deceased husband

A young, still grieving, military widow asked me recently if she remarries later on, what will happen when she and her husband are reunited after her death? Also she is interested in why she can sometimes feel his presence, then other times nothing?

The Angels explain that there is the love we experience in a body and then there is the Love that we experience in our dead-life. For the majority of us, these are two very different experiences.  In a body, our love is filled with judgment. "Yeah, I love you, but I wish you could have done better." Or "Why were you flirting with ... last night?  I was humiliated!" In life, we are always working with accepting what our mate or friend does and how we perceive their actions. 

In our dead life, love is Love. It is unconditional. Our spirit is permeated with the Love of the Source, of God.  In that place there is no room for "yes, but."  Unconditional Love is about acceptance of what is. This love is unequivocal and permeates every drop of your spirit so that you are filled to the brim with joy and contentment if you are willing.

As for why you sometimes are able to feel your husband's presence and other times not, that can have to do with many things.  When we first pass on, we tend to stay close to home, so you would be apt to feel your husband close to you.  Later on, you will both begin to move on with your lives and reconnect periodically, depending upon your temperament.

If you set your intention to connect with your husband in your dream state, most likely you will. The trick will be to to ask to remember your dreams in the morning and perhaps, to keep a pad of paper by your bed to record your remembrance immediately upon awakening.

If you remarry, you will have the opportunity to expand your love to include as many husbands as you choose. In your dead life, love never lessens your relationship, it only expands.  Love builds upon love.  It gets stronger and purer, i.e. more accepting and nurturing. Forgiveness becomes a fait accompli for you with others if you allow it.

Life is a continuum of energy as opposed to stop and go as it appears to the living. The acceptance found in true Unconditional Love is the glue that moves us into enlightenment and the reunion with the God Source.

What happens after death? What's the difference between dogs and people?

My spiritual friend with the much-loved dog, Aero, after realizing he was in constant pain, allowed him to be euthanized.  She and her husband mourned not just the loss of their adored pet, but all the past losses that arose again in their hearts. It was a tough time.

Now she wonders if Aero is in doggie heaven playing with his friends, or he is still around, meaning, the house? What the Angels are saying is that we, in the physical life of the third dimension, have difficulty understanding that we move with our energy. Our capabilities are much more than what we imagine.

In everyday life, we move our energy, i.e. ourselves, into a different train of thought. We are anywhere but present. When we are not present, we are in our head, creating a different reality.  The challenge for our friends is there is nobody home to connect to in our physical body.  We are flying loose, untethered, the way we used to navigate in our dead spirit form. If you are accused of not listening, most likely you play around in the spirit world often, but haven't figured out how to control this behavior to benefit yourself and others.

In death, both people and domesticated animals tend to move between the alive world and the dead-spirit world initially.  If we have left behind those we love, we tend to stay close to them until we get used to our state of not having a physical body and they get used to life without us.  Once we catch onto our unlimited capacity to create our life in the spirit world, we can easily b-ilocate and be in our new environment as well as check in with our old "alive" friends.

Imagine you died recently but still feel like you. You feel fine now. Your body no longer hurts;  there is no pain.  Everything looks the same. The freedom allows you to stick around.  After all, where else would you go?

In the dog, Aero's case, he's spent  some ten or more years with Julie and her husband.  He was rarely on his own except for a few hours, and then in the confines of a home that was prepared for his comfort. He owned the couch.  The white plush rug was his.  His food was lovingly prepared.  His every need watched over. Who wants to leave?

After awhile Aero will feel comfortable enough to roam from his old home. Surrounded by the energy of old friends in the spirit world, gradually he will acclimate to his new home as Julie and her husband move forward in their own lives without Aero.  People exhibit the same behavior as we become comfortable in our new dead-life.

The Dying Process

My friend, Julie's, beloved dog, Aero, is in his dying process. She works from home, so she can attend to his needs as they appear. It is not her wish to give him the vet "shot."  He's much too dear for that.  So she watches and waits and mourns.

All of us dog lovers know that dogs live their life differently than people.  I'm not talking about the ability to think,  skin vs. fur, and two legs vs. four.  I'm talking about hearts. Dogs, if not mistreated, seem to be able to live in their heart space.  Who else greets you at the door, tail wagging, tongue flapping, as you enter with a load of groceries?  Who else, after you were annoyed at his behavior, comes back as soon as it is safe, to rub up against you, his whole butt wiggling with delight at seeing you?  Who else returns love consistently even when you forgot to give it?

Aero is curled up on the expensive leather couch, which he commandeered as his own long ago.  Julie says it's so sad.  He has dementia. He's not eating. He barely moves. All he does is sleep. 

Dying for dogs is not much different than it is for people. We all acknowledge that as your body wears out, you have less energy as your organs slow down and you sleep more.  Gradually you become less active.  The Angels tell me that some amount of what we call dementia is normal.  What is really happening is our consciousness moves from what we think of as reality, "backward"  into other times. Past and present merge.  Old friends, dead for years, move to the forefront.

Physicists point out there is no time or space, no past or future. The dying are still in a body, but we move in and out of the physical world until one day we feel safe enough to change containers.  One day we allow ourselves to die, to leave our body.

The state of mild dementia, is a state of limbo, neither fully alive nor dead. It's the place of feeling your way into your new home.  Imagine yourself opening your eyes and seeing the dead looking alive. You recognize them, but your mind doesn't know how to categorize this picture.

Some of us are able to accept readily that we are returning to spirit form. Others either do not choose to leave the body now, or don't believe there is anything after death.  Some refuse to acknowledge what they see and do not allow themselves to reconnect with their old "dead" friends.  Some of us move into our dead space and see those we know and love, but live in this halfway house of dementia for years because of our culture's medical desire to keep everyone alive; or our personal desire to hold onto life for those we love.  Some of us are just afraid to leave behind our bodies, believing that our existence is over and we are too frightened of the unknown to let go.

With Julie's permission I will share her email this morning about Aero, "It seems like he doesn't know me but he is as sweet as ever. Saying goodbye is 'gonna' hurt so bad.  Even now with him seeming so different, his presence fills the room with love and calm.  It's amazing how much space a dog's love will occupy.  It's amazing what good company he is for me, even now when he's deep asleep and not himself."

This is the love that we all yearn for. From both Julie's side and Aero's, this is love without judgment, so seldom encountered in life in a body.

The dead show up in funny places

Yesterday as I grabbed a combo slice at CostCo, an old friend waved from 4 tables over and sat down to eat with me.  Dave and I enjoyed twenty minutes together dripping cheese and pepperoni and catching up on the news.

When he heard what I was up to he told me two recent happenings for him.  Apparently, a couple of months ago he had just bought a fancy new digital clock that projects the time onto his bedroom ceiling. Shortly after, he awoke suddenly at 3:10 a.m. to see the numbers flash on ceiling.  The next morning he found his 90 year-old mother had passed on. You guessed it. 3:10 a.m.

Dave is one of those guys who enjoys life and has the friends to prove it. His second story follows. One of his old gang had died and he and his drinking buddies got together within the week at their old hangout by the beach.

In their dead buddy's honor, and to share stories of their good times together, they all ordered up shots of tequila.  Just as Dave reached over to pick up his shot glass for the toast, and with everyone watching, the shot glass slid across the bar top.

It was definitely one more for old times sake.

Do the dead know when we are trying to reach them?

Absolutely! the Angels assure us. However, just as in life, everyone is not receptive to your advances. If you are trying to connect with someone who was withdrawn and unemotional in life, expect the same. If your friend was a scientific type who poo-poohed anything that could not be explained with traditional science, he might not know how to connect with you. Or he might think he made up the unexplainable experience of you.  Or he might just think that it's not possible and release his intuitive sense of you.

Some of the deceased may be ashamed of how they treated you, or of how they lived their life, and deliberately hold back.  Others are shy and afraid to come forward, just as they were reticent and stood back in life.

Then there are also those who died from a debilitating illness.  They are busy rebuilding their energy so they can move forward in this new part of their dead-life.

Of course there are always those with whom we've created a reciprocal love.  Often, they are anxious to let us know all is well. They are the ones who appear at the grave site as that unexplainable humming bird, flapping it's wings madly over their own coffin at their own funeral to make sure you'll notice. Or the ones who terrify you in the middle of the night by throwing every light switch on at 2:00 a.m., or flashing the TV on and off while you were trying to sleep.  These are the beings who still walk with you, if you allow it.

Someone asked me recently is we could check on their dead relative without them knowing. The Angels tell me it is possible and probable, especially if they have been deceased for a long time.  When we first pass on, we tend to stay close to those we love.

As time moves on and the distance between us  lengthens, both sides acclimate to life without the other.  This includes the dead who have had the opportunity to reunite with old friends and interests left behind in a body.

Proof of Heaven and God

My friend, Bob, passed this along to me. This is an actual answer posted online by the professor for the midterm chemistry exam question given at the U. of Az. Most students wrote proof of their beliefs using Boyle's Law (gas cools when it expands and heats when it is compressed) or some variant.

"Is Hell exotheric (gives off heat) or endothermic (absorbs heat?)"

One student wrote the following:

"First, we need to know how the mass of Hell is changing in time.  So we need to know the rate at which souls are leaving, which is unlikely.  I think that we can safely assume that once a soul gets to Hell, it will not leave.  Therefore, no souls are leaving.  As for how many souls are entering Hell, let's look at the different religions that exist in the world today.

Most of these religions state that if you are not a member of their religion, you will go to Hell. Since there is more than one of these religions and since people do not belong to more than one religion, we can project that all souls go to Hell.  With birth and death rates as they are, we can expect the number of souls in Hell to increase exponentially.  Now, we look at the rate of change of the volume in Hell because Boyle's Law states that in order for the temperature and pressure in Hell to stay the same, the volume of Hell has to expand proportionately as souls are added.

This gives two possibilities:

1. If Hell is expanding at a slower rate than the rate at which souls enter Hell, then the temperature and pressure in Hell will increase until all Hell breaks loose.

2.  If Hell is expanding at a rate faster than the increase of souls in Hell, then the temperature and pressure will drop until Hell freezes over.

So which is it?

If we accept the postulate given to me by Teresa during my Freshman year that, 'It will be a cold day in Hell before I sleep with you,' and take into account the fact that I slept with her last night, then number two must be true, and thus I am sure that Hell is exothermic and has already frozen over.  The corollary of this theory is that since Hell has frozen over, it follows that it is not accepting any more souls and is therefore extinct...leaving only Heaven, thereby proving the existence of a divine being, which explains why, last night, Theresa kept shouting, 'Oh my God.'"

This student received an A+.

Stuck in Addiction

I learned something new yesterday. I read  my client's dead brother.  I could feel his energy, but it was removed in some way. I couldn't get a grip on him. I knew he was around, but I didn't get the rush up my leg. I didn't feel the love that makes me teary-eyed, that often happens when two people are closely connected.

What I did feel was that his energy was encapsulated. He was withdrawn, protective of himself.  He had surrounded himself within a protective shield and now didn't know how or didn't want to remove it.  My client finally helped me out. Her brother was an addict.

As a child, Ray was filled with life, fun and good humor.  He grew up feeling infallible.  He thought he could live forever and playing with drugs was just one more way to participate in adulthood.  Unfortunately, his natural belief in himself and his abilities in the physical, didn't prepare him for his proclivity to being caught in the inescapable dopamine burst of what appeared to be joy.  It turned out to be the opposite.

Ray passed on several years ago.  His family lives with the anger and pain of a wasted life. Once caught in the web of addiction, there was no easy way out.  Ray was not strong enough to fight for the right to live. Instead he was caught in the web of a brained hooked on a synthetic rush that created a short-lived elation before the crash.

His sister is a compassion woman. Together we opened our hearts to feel our love for Ray, the brother of her childhood.  He was unable to allow us in. What he did allow, however, was for us to surround his very closed-in energy field with Light.  It felt as if we packed him in the Light, so that he would be able to build his energy.  Our goal was that one day he would open up to feel the Power within that he mistook in life for physical power.  His interior energy remained weak, almost wispy. There was nothing for him to hold onto to grow his way out.  At least now, his energy will not disperse more.

When he chooses, Ray will be able to build on strengthening himself until one day he feels whole enough to give life in a body another try.

What do YOU want to know about being dead? - SURVEY

My Angels began hounding me to talk to the dead in late 1998.  By late 1999 they woke me out of a sound sleep so that I took them seriously.  It took me another few years to work up my nerve and actually talk to what I didn't see, didn't feel, had no particular aptitude for, and was not particularly interested in.

These Angel guys are at it again and I need your help. I have committed to writing a short book about what it's like when we're in our dead-life.

I need your help. Would you please think of what you would like to know about the dead and about being dead?  Send me as many questions as you can think of, so I can channel the answers and get this off my shoulders. Please send your questions directly to me:  suzy@nobodysdead.com.

Here are some ideas to warm you up:

- What do I do all day when I'm dead?

- Who decides whether I go to heaven?  Is there a heaven?

- What about if I am a murderer/rapist/ terrorist in a body?  What happens to me when I die?

- What if I've been a Mother Theresa?

- What's the purpose of this back and forth, life and death?

- Is there really an all-beneficent force called God?

- Is there a devil?

- Who determines what I do, and when and where I go, when I die?

- Is there a board to judge my behavior?

- Do those who are more successful in the world get a better rating?

Again, please send your questions directly to suzy@nobodysdead.com.  The Angels and I will be working together on this between Christmas and New Years.  Thank you!

With love, Suzy

What's our life like Dead?

As a channel for the higher consciousness of the Angelic realm and a Medium, I love this topic!  Who doesn't want to know what we do in our dead life, if we have one at all?  Do we float on a cloud with "The Man" by our side?  Do we dissolve into space and float back into the quantum field?

The Angels tell me that our dead life is about perfecting our minds and hearts into the likeness of the Divine.  As our consciousness entrains with the energy of the God Source, we are able to guide others, including you and me here on planet Earth.

What if, in order to be born into a physical body, we had to leave behind our knowledge of how our life minus a body exists?  If we didn't, why and how could we squeeze ourselves into the joy and misery of  living in a third dimensional body?

As a physically vulnerable baby, we die quickly without someone feeding and taking care of our every whimpered need.  Did we realize what a risk it was to be born at all?  Or are we like sheep, all following each other, while sliding down a birth canal into the startling experience of life in the physical, without even the ability to take care of ourselves?

If all was well on "The Other Side,"  why would we choose life in the crapshoot of a body?  Our third dimensional physical life is all about comparison.  Many of us never leave the two year old, "It's mine!" stage of thinking.

Our minds taunt us in singsong, "I have the most, therefore I am...the smartest, the prettiest, most handsome,  most loved.   I have the biggest house, the newest cars, and I have more money than yoouu, yah-da, yada, yadaah..."

Not only that, but my edition is newer than yours.  You, my dear, and forgive me for pointing out the obvious, are last year's model.  We're the auto industry in a body!  Let's give a hand to our advertising guys who modeled our lust into the form of metal and then sold us back our picture of life at a whopping profit to keep all our egos afloat.

Perhaps the unspoken tag line is, "If I succeed in amassing worldly goods and the unattainable perfection of the physical, I am insulated from the pain of life.  I have outsmarted God!"  Oh really?

What if, when our body leaves us, we are left alone with our true Self?

What Do you do once you're dead?

While laughing at our Third Dimensional innocence, the Angels are saying, "Dear ones, What do you do now?  That's it!"   In some ways your life will intensify and in some ways it will be easier.

What they are showing me is that we come up against ourselves.  We get to see who we really are, without the fluff.  The abs are gone, if you were lucky enough to have them.  The boob and nose job are no longer necessary. There are no worries that our kids might be so drugged out they'll flunk school and they'll never leave home;  or that they will grow up with enlarged thumbs because they've been texting all day when they were supposed to be listening to the teacher.  Basic stuff.  You won't care.   These little physical life challenges will no longer matter.  Neither will the big physical challenges that plague so many.

What will matter is your spiritual transformation.  Your willingness to forgive.  To forgive yourself.  To forgive others.  If you choose to grow spiritually, you will have an opportunity to observe your behavior in this last life and play out a new path, like watching a movie with the same main characters in a new scenario.

Just as in your "alive" life now, you will have the choice to release your resistance to what is;  to change your attitude about the injustices of life;  and to choose to be an inspiration to others.

You will have the opportunity to feel true Love once again.  This is the love mentioned in the Bible, the "love that surpasses all understanding."  This love is what we search for in our "alive" life.  It is the purity of love emanating from the Divine, without human judgment and with complete acceptance of our human foibles and apparent weaknesses.